Live in Today’s Calling – and Hope in a Sure Future

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It’s that time of year—you know, the one where all the stores become decked out with various shades of pink, atrocious amounts of candy, and lots of hearts.

Valentine’s Day. The day when you’re supposed to be all gushy and romantic and get dressed up and go on a date.

And for those of us who are single? Ah, well, we’re expected to stay home and cry ourselves to sleep.

(Actually, I’ll be sitting through an education class that night. 😊)

But that’s what the world – and our own hearts – can want us to think. That we’re missing something, that we’re victims, and we’re suffering because we’re not dating/courting/married, etc.

Let me just tell you something. If you’re single and a Christian, you’re right where God wants you. You’re not a victim. You’re not just stuck in this terrible time, waiting for your Prince Charming or (Princess Charming? Is that a thing?) to come to rescue you.

You have already been rescued.

I’m preaching to myself here. There have been times when I have desired to be married, to have kids. I think a lot of people—I daresay, especially young women—tend to ponder these things often.

And there’s nothing wrong with that. Marriage and children are some of the Lord’s biggest blessings, and they’re absolute gifts from Him. Marriage is a beautiful picture of Christ and the Church—it can’t get much better than that!

But when it gets to the point that we’re discontent because we’re not married, that we’re questioning the Lord’s plans because we aren’t in a relationship … that’s a problem.

“And having food and raiment let us be therewith content.” (1 Timothy 6:8). That’s what the Bible says, and to me, that sounds pretty minimal. Just food and raiment? What about shelter? What about family, friendship, hobbies, pets?

We’re supposed to be content with our barest essential needs met. Nothing more.

“Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.”

Philippians 4:11 KJV

We aren’t supposed to be covetous. Not desperately striving and longing for something that isn’t ours, even when it’s something good and honorable like marriage.

Okay. So we know we’re supposed to be content. But what about when the rubber meets the road, per se? How do we deal with these longings (longings that aren’t wrong in themselves), and keep them from becoming jealousy, bitterness, and hopelessness?

We look at Jesus.

Marriage as we know it doesn’t exist in heaven (Matthew 22:30). It’s an earthly thing, one that ends with death (in the perfect situation.) It’s simply a picture—a beautiful one, but still a picture. Not the end goal. Not the most important thing in our lives.

The only marriage that exists in heaven is the one between Christ and the Church. The perfect, ultimate marriage.

And guess what. We already have that Bridegroom, that Husband, that Savior. He is ours, and we are His. His love is greater than any person’s—why should we desperately long for more? His covenant to us is far greater, far deeper than any marriage vows. He will never fail us. He will never leave us. He will never be unkind to us. He will always perfectly love us.

So when the world, or someone close to you, or even your own heart shouts that you are missing something, that you are just a poor suffering single person … don’t listen.

You have the greatest Gift of all – Jesus.

And you know what? Singlehood is a blessing that God gives. Trust that the Lord knows what He’s doing in your life. If you would’ve been better off dating or married, you’d be there.

Seek to be content where you are today—don’t get caught up in the what-ifs of the future, those things that you could have, but just haven’t attained.

Live in today’s calling. Live in the blessings the Lord has showered upon you today – don’t look to tomorrow’s earthly hopes for your happiness. Your joy and your fulfillment come from the Lord … and you can have that today, for He changes not.

And the future we should look to? Well, that’s the one in heaven, a sure one, for it is “… an inheritance incorruptible, and undefiled, and that fadeth not away, reserved in heaven for you…” (1 Peter 1:4).

So, single person, trust the Lord in all things. Whether He brings that special person into your life or not is under His control—and right now, rejoice.

For you have already found Him whom your soul loves, and His banner over you is love.

30 thoughts on “Live in Today’s Calling – and Hope in a Sure Future

  1. Wooowww, this is SUCH a great post, Vanessa!! I was just thinking the other night about how Christians are in the “teenager” phase of their eternal life – the part where they’re waiting anxiously for their wedding day, the day when they can be with their One, but they’re not quite ready yet. The world isn’t ready yet. So we just have to trust, wait, and do what we’ve been called to do until the world ends.

    Wonderful post!!

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  2. Wow, beautiful reminder!!! Yes, God has us just where we need to be at the moment – it’s such a freeing thought. We can’t go wrong as long as we follow His timetable, as a book I once read said – a Grandma’s Attic book, I think. (Lol Princess Charming! It should be a thing if it’s not!) Thank you, Vanessa! 😀

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  3. You are absolutely right! Being single gives us the greatest opportunity of our lives to serve others and Christ because we don’t have a family that is taking all of our time. Singleness is not a season to just endure, it is a season to grow and bloom where God has us right now. 🌹

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  4. Beautiful! This is something I’ve been praying and thinking about a lot lately…thanks for the encouraging post! I know God has plans, He always does, sometimes its just hard to see them and trust them.
    Amazing post Vanessa!

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  5. Oh, nah, I don’t do mushy gushy. Just give me chocolate (ooh, or I’ll take sour candy…) and I’ll be content. LOL!!

    But in all seriousness, this post is so sweet and true at the same time! I think that when we’re younger (and I’m still speaking to myself haha), we’re more naive than we think we are and become enamored with what the world says is right for us or what we think is right for us. That’s when we have those authority figures in our life (and life in general) who pull us back, whack us in the head, and say, “Ah, ah, ah, whereeeee do you think you’re going??” LOL!! It reminds me of what my pastor said in essence that once you get married, it’s no longer about you. From that point forward, it’s about the other spouse (in our instance, “him”). So…there is more freedom in being single. I think I’m starting to talk to myself more now…LOL!!

    Thank you for this post! Absolutely encouraging! (I must go into my own world now and rethink my life…)

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    • Ahh yes, give me all the chocolate! And sour candy. Mmm … so yum. 🙂

      You’re so right! I as well was very naive (like embarrassingly so – laughably so), when I was younger. (Not saying I’m not still naive, though. Working on that one.) But I understand what you’re saying! Life usually turns out far differently than we ever imagined, and even though it’s not this picture-perfect idea we had, the Lord works it all out in such a glorious way! His Ways are always good and sure, and He always knows what’s best for us. And yes – marriage really is about the other person, though I think a lot of time we focus more on what we will gain from marriage (happiness, romance, etc.)

      And you’re so welcome, Amelia! Thank you so much for reading and for your thoughtful comments. I’m so glad this was encouraging to you – it’s so good to remind ourselves of the Lord’s truth. (I need to do that more often than I do! I tend to listen to myself far too much. 🙂 )


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